How to Romance Yourself this Valentine’s Day

Feb 8

Ahh yes, Valentine’s Day, or as I like to call it SAD - Single’s Awareness Day (a little dose of cynicism anyone?). It’s right around the corner and this year is unprecedented - even if you wanted to go on a date with someone it might feel a little...distanced (had to, sorry!). But what if you don’t have a date? For many, the dating prospects this year might have felt very difficult to navigate, and maybe this year you don’t have someone to go on a date with.

And that’s okay, because there’s still a special someone in your life - YOU.

Be honest with yourself, when’s the last time you REALLY treated yourself? Took care of yourself? In these pandemic times (and even before), we’ve been doing our best to care for others - wearing masks, social distancing, avoiding going out if possible - and mental health has come to the forefront of the collective’s mind.

This Valentine’s Day, whether you have a partner or not, I encourage you to treat yourself in the way you would love to be treated. Because at the end of the day, if you don’t take care of yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? And if you don’t love yourself, how can you know how you want to be loved?

So, here are 6 ways you can romance yourself this Valentine’s Day:

1. Get in a workout

Moving your body is one of the best ways you can show yourself some love, because working out isn’t just about your physical health, it’s about your mental health too. Movement is medicine, as cliche as that sounds, but it’s true. And when you move your body, that release of endorphins is going to have you feeling good, oh-so-sexy, and on top of the world. Who wouldn’t want to feel like that?!

2. Buy yourself a small box of chocolates, or a heart-shaped package of candy

I know, it makes no sense when it’ll be 50% off the next day, but hear me out - would you want your partner to buy something for you just because it’s 50% off? Probably not. You’re worth the full price.

3. Get yourself a beautiful new outfit or put on your favorite outfit for the day

Feeling good on the outside absolutely helps you feel better on the inside. I guarantee you’ll feel more energized, upbeat, and even possibly more productive when you’re done up and feeling fresh and beautiful. Of course you’re beautiful as you are, but it’s never a bad idea to wear something that makes you feel your sexiest and most beautiful!

4. Treat yourself to dinner

If you aren’t comfortable eating alone (which is also okay!), order in, rent or buy a movie you’ve been wanting to watch, and enjoy yourself. Make sure you’re enjoying every bite of the food you’ve ordered. Or even better, don’t even watch the movie while you’re eating so you can really savor the food.

5. Journal & do a self-love meditation

This is probably the most woo-woo of this list, but bear with me. Journaling and meditating help you connect (or re-connect) within, helping you remember now just who you are, but that you are love and you are light. If you are needing some journal prompts, try some of these:

What are 15 things I am grateful for?

What are my favorite non-physical features about myself?

What are my favorite physical features about myself?

What do I love about myself? Why?

What do I bring to the table?

How can I show myself more love consistently?

And when you’re meditating, you can simply repeat a few mantras and affirmations such as:

I am love

I am loved

I have so much love to give

I love myself just as I am

I am light

If you’re more of a guided meditation person or you’re new and need some guidance here are some great resources for guided meditations:

My Meditation YouTube Collection [scroll down to Meditations on YouTube]
The Mala Collective’s Meditations [shameless plug: CASSANDRA20 saves you $]
YouTube
Spotify

6. Get Physical

Last but not least - use physical touch to show yourself some love. This can be a massage, or just reconnecting with yourself physically. Physical touch is a very “real” way to connect and tune in to your body and it’s needs. Whether you’re receiving a professional massage, or you’re loving on yourself, allow yourself to physically feel good. This will release oxytocin which is the brain’s happy hormone.

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Showing yourself love is one of the most underrated and overlooked things we do in today’s society. Of course you don’t need to do the things listed in this blog post, but I do recommend doing something for yourself to show yourself love with intention. You are worth it.

If you want to show yourself a little more love every day through journaling, check out the Daily Love Gratitude Journal, designed and published by yours truly. I wanted to create a tool with the space for you to spill your gratitude, thoughts, affirmations, and reminders of positivity on a daily basis.